No matter how passionately you might be
pouring your heart out to him... he
stares at you with a stone face.
And when you talk to him about your
serious problems, your bad day at work,
or your evil boss, he just shrugs and
says, "Well... I'm sure everything will
be okay."
Why are men so DENSE? Why do they tend
to be so INSENSITIVE? And why do they
seem to SPACE OUT when you're trying to
tell him something important?
Let's talk about men and their
"insensitivity" in today's Newsletter...
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WHY MEN ARE "INSENSITIVE"
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Here's the reason why men can't seem to
hear you when you're talking to them:
They're NOT really big on talking.
They're not!
Men (or at least the better ones out
there) have an unspoken trait that goes:
"Less talk, more action."
When it comes to love, for instance, a
good man may not say "I love you often,"
but you'll see and feel his love through
his actions.
He'll kiss you often, he'll give you a
hug if he can spare it, he'll do chores
without you asking him... you get the
idea!
In case you're asking, this "less talk,
more action" is a natural trait. It's
something Mother Nature hard-wired into
alpha males of the human race.
And that's why some men accomplish more
in their lives. They're more successful
simply because they talk less and act
more!
Now here's the problem: When you nag,
criticize, or get angry at him for not
saying the words you want to hear...
you're actually turning off a potential
alpha male.
Oops!
So here's my first piece of advice:
Don't get mad if he seems unresponsive
when you're ranting to him. He's just
being the kind of man Mother Nature
intended him to be!
The rule is this: If you want SOLUTIONS,
talk to your man. If you want SYMPATHY,
you're probably better off ranting to
your girlfriends.
Am I right or am I right? ;)
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THE RIGHT AND WRONG WAYS
TO TALK TO A MAN
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Now I'm sure some of you are wondering:
"So does that mean guys NEVER listen?"
Of course not. They DO listen. In fact,
I think they listen a little TOO well,
because men tend to take every word you
say to them at face value.
In other words, they take everything you
say LITERALLY. And that, dear ladies, is
why men can't take hints!
When you're mad at him, but you tell
him, "It's okay," he'll ACT like it's
okay.
And when you get mad at him later for
being "insensitive," he'll think you're
crazy!
So here's another piece of advice: Learn
how to talk in a man's language!
In a little while, I'll be giving you
three examples of "Right vs. Wrong" ways
to talk to a man. But if you want the
full guide, I suggest you get a copy of
the e-book collection I got today's tips
Got it? Good. Let's move on to the
"Right vs. Wrong" scenarios...
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WRONG WAY #1 - ASKING FOR EXPLANATIONS
Do you often ask him questions like,
"What do you mean by THAT?"
If you need him to explain the things he
says, either you (1) don't trust him, or
(2) you're over-analyzing things.
Remember, guys don't take hints... much
less DROP hints!
RIGHT WAY #1 - TRUST HIM
Let me say that again - men are simple.
They say what they mean, and mean what
they say. So learn to trust him!
When you learn to lower your "paranoia
level" and raise your "trust level," the
relationship becomes stronger... and
you'll be much happier.
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WRONG WAY #2 - SWEARING
No disrespect intended for the chronic
swearers! But I'd like you to know that
even if you and your man BOTH swear a
lot in ordinary conversations, dirty
words have a negative effect on the
relationship's mood.
Put simply, the more you swear, the
worse he'll feel. (Just trust me on
this.)
RIGHT WAY #2 - SWEAR CUTELY
If you're a habitual swearer (and even
if you're not), learn the art of
swearing "cutely." For instance:
"Oh, POOP!"
"How the CUSS did that happen?"
"Shut the FRONT DOOR!"
"Oh, FUDGE!" (This one makes me hungry.)
See what I mean? By swearing in a cute
way, you still let out a little steam,
but it doesn't drag the mood down. In
fact, it might even make him laugh!
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WRONG WAY #3 - JUST SAYING WHAT'S ON
YOUR MIND
Do you know the RIGHT things to say when
you're meeting him for the first time?
Or when you're in a serious
relationship?
Or when you're in bed?
Or when you're arguing?
In such crucial moments of your
relationship, "saying what's on your
mind" is a 50-50 thing. You either make
him love you more... or turn him off
completely.
Do you really want to risk that?
RIGHT WAY #3 - SAY THE WORDS THAT MEN
FIND ROMANTIC
In my e-book collection "Romantic Words
For Men," I teach you EXACTLY the right
words to say in all the critical moments
of your relationship with your man.
These are the words that can win his
heart.
These are the words that make him love
you more and more with each passing day.
These are the words that will get what
you want from him... without any nagging
and arguing!
But that's not all. In addition to the
160+ pages of dating advice I give in
the "Romantic Words For Men," e-book,
I'm also giving you a bonus e-book
entitled: "Words That Destroy
Relationships."
It's a little "rulebook" that will help
you steer clear of the dangerous words
that can ruin even the strongest,
happiest relationships. Very important!
You can get the "Romantic Words For Men"
e-book collection, including the "Words
That Destroy Relationships" bonus
e-book, by clicking the link below:
- - - > Win his heart with your words! < - - -
To the happiness you deserve,
~Alexandra Fox
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