Many years ago, I volunteered at an
orphanage. One day, one of the kids came
to me, telling me his toy car had
stopped running. The batteries had died,
so I had to replace them.
The problem: I couldn't find a
screwdriver to open the battery
compartment. So I tried to "MacGyver" it
- I tried using a butter knife, a coin,
and a paper clip. Nothing worked.
After an hour of trying, I was ready to
get a hammer and smash the darned thing
open.
But at that moment, the boy tugged at my
sleeve and said: "Miss Alex, I found a
screwdriver."
I took the screwdriver. Less than a
minute later, the toy car was working
again, and everyone was happy.
What's the moral of the story?
Just this: Broken relationships are like
broken toys. To fix them, you
the right tools.
May I make a bold statement? ANY
RELATIONSHIP CAN BE FIXED.
Any relationship. No exception
matter how broken or damaged or strained
it is - with the right tools, it can
work again, and everyone will be happy
again.
Unfortunately, many great couples today
are unable to give themselves a second
chance.
Why? Simply because they're using the
wrong tools.
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ARE YOU USING THE WRONG TOOLS?
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To fix anything, there are a million
"wrong tools" out there... and just a
handful of "right tools."
And in dating and relationships, these
are 4 of the most common "wrong tools"
to fix a problem:
Wrong Tool #1 - Waiting For Him To
Apologize.
When we get into a spat with our man, we
often wait for him to fix things. We
think: "Why should I apologize first?
He's the guy. It's his job to fix
things."
Does this mentality fix things? ...No.
Wrong Tool #2 - Saying What He Doesn't
Want To Hear
When we argue with our guy, we often
nag, accuse, criticize, insult,
blackmail... or simply give him the
silent treatment. We want him to feel
GUILTY, and maybe knock some sense into
him.
Problem is: How often has this approach
REALLY worked?
Wrong Tool #3 - Begging Him To Come Back
Sometimes, when we DO apologize first,
we do it in a begging, pleading way,
trying to gain his sympathy.
Unfortunately, if he already broke up
with you, this approach will make you
look needy and desperate... which, as we
already know, is uglier than ugly.
And finally:
Wrong Tool #4 - Focusing On The Problem
After a breakup, we usually spend a week
(or much longer) wondering: "What went
wrong? What if I did this - would it
have made a difference? If I did that,
would we still be together?"
Dwelling on the past never helped
anyone, and it certainly won't help fix
your relationship!
But that's the sad thing. Many of us use
these wrong tools over and over and
again. So the relationship becomes an
even BIGGER mess.
And then, when things finally fall
apart, we give up and whine:
"All men are JERKS!"
"Love is a lie!"
"I'm going to be single FOREVER!"
None of that is true.
You just used the wrong tools. Period.
Have you ever used the wrong tools
before?
Are you using the wrong tools RIGHT NOW?
If so, let's wrap up this Newsletter by
fixing the problem with...
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ALL THE RIGHT TOOLS
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Here's a couple of questions to think
about:
Why did the generations of our
grandparents and great-grandparents
enjoy a super-low 10% divorce rate
(compared to a disturbing 45% today)?
How did so many couples back then stay
together for 50, 60, 70 happy years?
Here's an actual answer by a grandmother
who had been happily married to her man
for 65 years:
"We were born in a time when if
something was broken, we would FIX it,
not throw it away."
In other words, you need the RIGHT TOOL
- such as the proven relationship-fixing
tool
Right Tool #1 - Apologizing Anyway.
To fix a problem, it doesn't matter who
apologizes first. So might as well get
the ball rolling by reaching out, right?
Besides, what's more important to you...
your pride, or your relationship? ;)
(More of this tool in Bonus eBook #2 -
9 Crucial Things To Say To Get Him Back)
Right Tool #2 - Saying What He
Needs To Hear
If you REALLY want to connect with a
man, you have to know how to speak in
his "language" - otherwise, it's always
going to be a one-sided discussion.
Right Tool #3 - Instead Of Chasing,
Create Space.
Attracting a man into a life isn't about
chasing him - it's about turning the
situation upside-down and making HIM
chase you.
And after a break-up, the easiest way to
do that is to create some "space" in
your life to invite him back in.
The details are all in Secret #8 of my
77 Secrets To Save Your Relationship.
And finally:
Right Tool #4 - Focus On The Solution.
In love and life, whatever you focus on
will grow. So why focus on the problems?
Why focus on whatever caused the
breakup?
Instead, focus on the solution. Millions
of happy couples have fixed their
troubled relationships in the past -
Over the years, I've compiled
solutions, successful strategies, and
RIGHT TOOLS that happy couples have
used. And now, they're in the most
comprehensive problem-solving eBook
collection for women - my 77 Secrets To
Save Your Relationship.
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