Do you have a man in your life, and he loves you very
much... but he's taking his sweet time making things
official?
You might have been dating exclusively for several months now.
Or you might have been in a serious relationship for
several years now.
And still, nothing's happening. It's enough to drive
ANYONE crazy with impatience!
At this point, you might be tempted to confront him with
the question you've been wanting to ask for a long time:
"What are we, really? When are we going to become
official?"
If this is how you feel right now, here's a piece of love
advice: DON'T DO IT.
Just don't. You might end up scaring him away. You might
make him change his mind about your future... even if
you've been together for many years!
Let me reveal something weird about guys...
They Don't Have A Time Frame
That's right. When it comes to committing or proposing to
a woman, a guy isn't "time-oriented." That means he
doesn't give himself a deadline.
Instead, he's "goal-oriented." He sets big goals, and then
he moves to achieve them. He likes it that way, because it
puts him firmly in charge of his destiny.
That's why deadlines scare guys away. They suddenly
realize they're NOT in charge of their destiny, and
they're being pressured to achieve a goal they didn't set!
Let me say that again: Guys are not "time-oriented."
They're "goal-oriented."
And the key to making a guy commit or propose is... you
guessed it... to make him LOVE you so much that he makes
you his MOST IMPORTANT GOAL in his life!
And how do you do that?
Firstly, you CAN'T make a man commit by trying to
"convince" him. Deadlines, bribes, threats... all of these
will just drive him away.
So if you're thinking of trying to squeeze the proposal
out of him with gifts and favors... I suggest you take a
different approach.
Develop your relationship skills. Contrary to what
most of us believe, love is NOT all you need to make a
relationship work. You need to understand how men think,
how relationships work, and how to solve problems as they
come.
Normally, it takes YEARS to learn all these skills. But
life is short, so I decided to collect all the most
important lessons into two easy-to-read, easy-to-try
eBook collections:
If you're already in a serious relationship and you' re
waiting for him to propose,
And if you're still in the dating stage, and you're
waiting for him to make things official, read this today!
Now you can take all those years of waiting and
trial-and-error... and learn the most important love
lessons in a week of reading. You're welcome!
Now, some women ask me: "But Alex, what if I did
everything you said, and he STILL won't commit? What
should I do?"
My answer: Then THAT'S the only time you should ever give
him a deadline. Think of giving ultimatums as just that -
a last resort.
But remember, there's a right and (very) wrong way to give
him a deadline.
It's wrong to give him the deadline in a confrontational
manner, or when it comes from a negative, desperate
mindset. It's going to do the exact opposite of what you
want to happen!
Instead, do it from a loving, accepting, understanding
mindset:
"I love you, but I also want you to know that I'm looking
forward to enjoying our love more completely one day. I
hope you feel the same way, too."
See the difference? It doesn't put him under any pressure,
and it let's him know that he's still in charge of his destiny.
Only now, he's aware of what you want... and if he really
loves you, he'll make it his #1 goal soon after!
Remember: You've waited this long. Why wait any longer?
Why risk staying this way forever?
Might as well give it a try, right?
If you're already in a serious relationship and you' re
waiting for him to propose,
And if you're still in the dating stage, and you're
waiting for him to make things official,
To the LIFELONG happiness you deserve,
Alexandra Fox
Relationship & Love Coach
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